Brief Beings - An consulation Against disunion
Pope Leo the thirteenth said, "Divorce is born of perverted morals and leads to vicious habits." One doesn't need to fully agree with his statement however, to see where he's coming from. Marriage is supposed to be a sacred institution. Marriage is founded on a promise to love each other for as long as both spouses are alive. Increasingly any way disunion has come to be an appropriate life selection for habitancy here in America. America is the land of the free, and we by and large have the right to do anything we want with our lives. This free time has led us as a nation to take very exiguous seriously. American's blaspheme and worship idols and live in excess without real concern for how this effects their spiritual lives. The sacred institutions of our ancestors are belittled and defiled by we as a nation. Among the victims of the moral degradation in this country lies marriage.
Brief Beings - An consulation Against disunion
Divorce should never have come to be an appropriate life choice, this has happened largely because, as I mentioned before, the majority of habitancy don't take anything unquestionably seriously anymore. Despite the damage scientifically proven to be inflicted upon a child when their parents divorce, habitancy who have children still seem often to think disunion an option. It seems then that these habitancy don't mind the damage to be inflicted upon their children, or at least feel that the damage to their children is an appropriate cost for being able to slip out of their marriage. "Changing cultural values," together with a decline in real religious and moral conviction as well as a decline in the value of commitment and honor, lead to a "more ready acceptance and utilization of disunion as a clarification to interpersonal discord." (Rice and Rice 9) The vows taken at marriage involve the bride and groom promising to stay together for great of for worse. These vows are often entered into happily and lightly, and as a corollary many habitancy seem to mistakenly believe the "worse" they vowed to undergo was their partner being occasionally grumpy, and that when and if things unquestionably got worse they can plainly file for disunion rather than persisting to make good on their vows, since the vows didn't mean anything to them anyway. One would assume that Christians would be less likely to divorce, since their vows are made to men of the cloth in the name of god, and Christianity doesn't recognize divorce. Religious commitments any way would seem to be just someone else thing not taken seriously, as habitancy who claim to believe in god are in fact six percent more likely to divorce, and those who claim to stick closer to the bible, the "conservatives," are palpate a disunion rate higher than "other faith groups, and much higher than Atheists and Agnostics." (Robinson) The sanctity of marriage is slipping alright, but the courts are evidently to busy protecting it to stop it from being destroyed.
Divorce can be highly traumatic for children. "It is rare finding that girls are having more difficulty (after divorce) than boys," but both sexes are disastrously effected nevertheless. (Hodges 33) between the ages of infancy and three years old, there's exiguous damage emotionally by the absence of, or disunion from, the father. By the age of three years old however, up to the age of six, the loss of either parent is a devastating occurrence, resulting in damage in areas fluctuating from health to emotional development, in both the long and short term spectrum's. between the ages of six and twelve disunion is still highly traumatic, but it can be more facilely weathered by the child than at the previous stage, as long as the parent of the same sex gains custody of the child. Removing the parent of the same sex while this period can cause serious developmental disturbances. Even if this is done however, the child probably will not fare as well as one from an intact household. (Grollman 78) habitancy wonder why disunion is so high, but continue to get them, ignorant to the fact that disunion begets divorce. Does one not teach their children by example? A child will bear his entire life "what he saw in his father and mother," and if these habitancy were "inconsistent, untrustworthy, unreliable, and deceitful," the child will assume that of everyone, easing the decision to disunion as a result. (Grollman 83) This is exacerbated by the negative effects of disunion on the parent. "Divorce hurts you," "It leaves emotional scars from which you can never be free." (Medved 767) Children are often harmed not only psychologically but also morally by the disunion of their parents, as they take away from it the idea that disunion is acceptable. Persons who's parents had divorced by the time they were age sixteen have been found to be "almost two-thirds," or sixty six percent more likely to get a disunion themselves. (Hodges 46)
When one marries, one takes vows. A vow is an oath; a legally binding promise the breaking of which besmirches one's honor and can cause one to be arrested and charged with perjury. Yet when one breaks the marriage oath stating "for great or worse" by giving up and breaking it off when it gets worse, one is encouraged, supported, and even given a legal validation. A exiguous document informing you that the court has validated your decision. One might ask, can it be notion that a disunion recognized by the government will undue this religious ceremony? Once when the Pharisees visited Jesus, they asked him, "Is it legal to disunion one's wife for any reason?" Jesus replied that god makes the male and female "of one flesh" and that what "God has joined together," no man is to "put asunder" They then questioned Jesus on why Moses allowed divorce, and Jesus told them that Moses allowed disunion for mens "hardness of heart" but Jesus went on to say it hadn't always been so, and in fact was currently not so. Jesus then explained, "[w]hosoever shall put away his wife, except for (because of her) unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery." (Matthew 19:1-9) I think the talk to the primary examine then is a resounding no. Jesus stated his requirements for disunion clearly, and they don't seem to consist of "unless the governments of man approve" anywhere in them. That's not to say that getting legal documents filled out isn't an important step. The documents alone though are meaningless in the face of your spiritual commitment. The puritans, who would be carefully a morally upright habitancy by most, together with myself, also begrudged disunion in all but the most severe of circumstances. The puritans of New England would allow disunion in light of adultery, desertion, repeated nonsupport, or repeated bodily abuse. Puritans from many of the southern colonies any way had no provision anything for divorce. (Quale 286-287)
One can agree with the puritans of the north that severe circumstances merit divorce. If severe abuse is taking place, or if ones partner is unfaithful or gone, it can be understood that one might want to regain a disunion so that a worthy mate may be found, or maybe plainly to fly the offending mate. One might even go so far as to say that a disunion should be granted under these circumstances. Those who disunion for this presuppose are unquestionably not to blame, they didn't choose to have their mate act as they did. However, if this is not the case, disunion is not only morally negative, but probably should be illegal for the good of society. If one might wind up stuck with an unwanted mate for life, maybe habitancy would think more carefully before being married.
The no-fault marriage laws in place in much of the United States augment this qoute by manufacture it easy and cheap to attain a divorce, with no need for such things as a trial or proof of wrong doing. Not only do they make it legal and furthermore easy to divorce, but they make it cheap and easy to marry. Marriages licenses can legally be entered acquired by habitancy as young as eighteen, who have met each other as recently as five minutes ago, and can be bought on a low income. By allowing such ill fated and poorly notion out marriage's to occur, and then manufacture divorces cheap and easy to attain, the courts are decidedly taking a stand against the sanctity of marriage. If the law won't even stand up for marriage, how can the populous be imaginable to take marriage seriously? The courts of the American justice principles are loath to allow gay marriage because they suffer from the delusion that it might weaken the custom of marriage. That in mind, they also keep it legal to attain a no-fault divorce, which unquestionably does diminish the sanctity of marriage.
Several things have come to be clear at this point. The first is that on a personal level, unless the qoute is your mate sleeping with person else or punching you in the face, disunion needs to be eliminated from the list of appropriate solutions to the problems one might palpate with their partner in marriage. The second is that as a community we need to put down disunion and back away slowly. If one was going to choose between gays getting married, and straights getting divorced based on damage to society, it's understood at this point that straights pose the larger threat to the community and sanctity of it's marriages. When getting married, American's promise to love each other as long as they both shall live. It can be understood then why the life expectancy in American is decreasing. If disunion becomes any more heavily appropriate than it is, American's will be brief beings indeed.
Works Cited
Grollman, Earl. Explaining disunion to Children. 1st ed. United States: Triangle Publications, Inc, 1968.
Hodges, William. Interventions for Children of Divorce: Custody, Access, and Psychotherapy. 2nd ed. United States and Canada: John Wiley & Sons, 1991.
Medved, Diane. "The Case Against Divorce."Current Issues and Enduring Questions. 8th ed. 2008.
Quale, Robina. A History of Marriage Systems. 1st ed. Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, Inc, 1988.
Rice, Joy, and David Rice. Living through Divorce. 1st ed. New York: The Guilford Press, 1986.
Robinson, B. A. . "U.S. disunion rates for assorted faith groups, age groups, & geographic areas." Religious Tolerance .Org. 2008. Ontario Consultants on Religious Tolerance. 17 Nov 2008 .
The Oxford Annotated Bible with the Apocrypha. Rev. Ed. Oxford: Oxford University Press, Inc., 1973.
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